A lot of people who suffer from depression do so due to constantly comparing themselves to others. Since we humans are social animals it is only reasonable to do so. This is hard since most of us live in a society that heavily bombards us with examples of whom we should compare ourselves to.
Humans like hierarchies not unlike our cousins the chimpanzees. They seek comfort in being in a stable group made up of leaders and followers. By thinking in this way, success also becomes relative. We defined ourselves as successful in relation to other people and if we do not judge ourselves to be better than them we are unsuccessful. Success in these terms is a black-or-white concept. We either are successful or we’re not. If you have a goal that you are working towards but you have not yet achieved it, you are considered a failure. Think of famous entrepreneurs starting up a company or writers working on getting their book published, these are goals that can take several years if not decades. Now you can see where thinking of success as a black-or-white concept can lead to depression. Imagine if those entrepreneurs or writers thought of themselves as failures during their decade-long process, imagine if they compared themselves to CEOs of multinationals or published writers and thought of themselves as failures, this would mean that their depression would last for decades as well. So how should we think of success in order to avoid a depression?
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The answer lies in the Swedish word for success, framgång. Directly translated this word means going forward. The Swedish word for successful, framgångsrik can loosely be translated to being rich in going forward. Think in these terms we can see success as a process. If you have a goal and you are actively working towards it, you are in a process of success. The process neither has a start point or an end point. There is no Emerald City at the end of the road. Think of successful people either in your private life or famous ones. They are always working towards something. If they happen to fulfill one goal, they are onto the next by the following day. Of course, these goals may vary in caliber but they are goals nonetheless. If you abandon your goal, then you are no longer in a process of success. This will not only relieve of the hardship associated with not yet fulfilling a goal but will also help you stay motivated whilst you are working towards it. If you have trouble staying motivated, read our article Rethinking Our Relationship To Motivation.
Thinking of success as a process rather than something you either are or aren’t will also rid you of the negative thinking that so often can lead to depression in the long-run. By having set goals and working towards them according to a well thought-out plan you will be more carefree and happy in the process. So remember, success is a process.
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Depression And Low Energy Levels
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Philip Andersson – Life Coach
Philip Andersson is a life-coach who is currently studying to become a psychotherapist. He treats people suffering from depression, phobias and anxiety. Having been raised in Hong Kong and having lived in England and Japan as an adult, Philip also treats people who are overcome with feelings of displacement and rudderlessness associated with a global-nomad lifestyle such as Third Culture Kids, Cross Culture Kids, Migrants and Asylum Seekers.