Sometimes life can seem like a road going nowhere. Any sane person would, under these circumstances, wonder if there is any point in filling up the gas tank and going for a ride. After all, why bother? Few see the charm in that journey. With the memories of the past get smaller and more indistinguishable in the rearview mirror as the road ahead gradually becomes more winding, it is perfectly normal for us to want to hit the breaks and put the car in reverse. So why don’t we? The simple answer is, we can’t. We are constantly moving forward and with every day that has passed, we are doing so with even fiercer velocity. Fate has put us in a slingshot and sent us travelling forward in time. There is no stopping midway and changing direction. This discomforting thought is one of many different life problems that can lead to depression and cause people to seek therapy. So what is the cure for time related anxiety?
For people who suffer from anxiety and stress related to the future or very mild forms of depression, I recommend simple life-coaching sessions. For more complex forms of phobia and anxiety as well as deeper forms of depression where an in-depth analysis of past and present drives is necessary, I recommend traditional psychodynamic therapy sessions. People who relate to the aforementioned scenario and have no deeper form of depression, are suitable candidates for the former.
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The main cause for the anxiety in the aforementioned scenario is that the person is going from a familiar place to an unknown place. Even if the past was bad in many cases, it is still the devil we know. It can be daunting going forward without knowing your final destination. That is why you must decide your final destination and choose a suitable route. In other words, you must have a life plan in place.
A life plan with a clear final goal and suitable sub-goals and targets will not only fill you with purpose but will also instill a sense calm. Now you know where you are going as opposed to riding frantically into the darkness. There is nothing more fulfilling that living with a purpose, no matter what that purpose may be. Knowing that you are heading towards your next target or “pit-stop” in the journey of your life, will allow you to take in the beautiful view as you are driving along. But what happens when one completes a goal? – you ask.
That is where the title of this article comes in. When you complete a goal, you simply set another one. You must live as if your life is never going to end. When you are 83 years-old and living in a nursing home, you must still have a target. No matter how small or insignificant it may be. Maybe it is learning a language, or growing tomatoes in the window of your room, or perhaps it is something as simple as getting better at chess. What it all boils down to is having something to wake you up in the morning. The 83 year-old who has a life purpose to take care of tomato plants is much happier than the 22 year-old who is wandering around aimlessly. So pick a destination, select your route and when you arrive, choose the next place to go to.
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Philip Andersson – Life Coach
Philip Andersson is a life-coach who is currently studying to become a psychotherapist. He treats people suffering from depression, phobias and anxiety. Having been raised in Hong Kong and having lived in England and Japan as an adult, Philip also treats people who are overcome with feelings of displacement and rudderlessness associated with a global-nomad lifestyle such as Third Culture Kids, Cross Culture Kids, Migrants and Asylum Seekers.
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Cross Culture Therapy offers 1-on-1 online therapy sessions to people suffering from depression, phobia, anxiety as well as to people who suffer from displacement issues associated with a globally nomadic lifestyle (i.e.Third Culture Kids – people who have grown up in a culture different to their parent’s passport culture – and Cross Culture Kids) Our sessions are conducted via Skype for a duration of 50-minutes and can be purchased in packs of 1-session, 3-sessions or 5-sessions. If you are interested in purchasing a session, click on the Book A Session tab on our menu or click here.