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My name is Blank. I am a thirty-two year old woman from Liverpool, England. My father passed away two years ago and I have felt lost ever since. I find it harsh towards my mother to say this but he was the parent that I was really attached to. Now that he is gone I find myself going from one, one-night stand to the next. I have also developed a benzodiazepine addiction as a result of a work related injury I sustained 5 months ago and I have also started testing other drugs. What should I do? Thanks ahead of time for your answer. Love your videos!
First and foremost, thank you for reaching out to me. I want to begin by giving you my utmost condolences for the loss of your father, and I want to continue by reassuring you that your behaviour since has been understandable.
The fact that you preferred the company of your father over your mother has many reasonable explanations. There may be personality issues that I do not know about which may account for some of the reasoning behind this, but it can also be explained through Freud’s theory about sex as well as by gender related theories.
In the first few years of our life we form a connection to our parents which in many ways resemble what we seek in our future partners. We have a strong physical contact with our parents during for example, breast feeding and the parent is also responsible for helping control our oral, anal and genital functions during this time. In adulthood, we seek the same experience but in a different way, namely sex.
It is also quite normal for a girl to form a stronger bond to her father than her mother. Boys usually look for emotional comfort from the mother whilst girls look for a sense of security from their father.
Your actions since the loss of your father essentially implies that you are searching for his replacement. You are searching for the security that he gave you. In regards to your growing drug habit, it is very common for someone to go from painkillers to stronger substances as their addiction gets more severe. One thing that can explain a drug habit is the fact that drugs are seen as more dependable than people. The drug will always be there and give you the same affect. With the loss of your father, you may be replacing your dependancy on him with a dependancy on drugs.
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Philip Andersson is a life-coach who is currently studying to become a psychotherapist. He treats people suffering from depression, phobias and anxiety. Having been raised in Hong Kong and having lived in England and Japan as an adult, Philip also treats people who are overcome with feelings of displacement and rudderlessness associated with a global-nomad lifestyle such as Third Culture Kids, Cross Culture Kids, Migrants and Asylum Seekers.