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Depression Q & A: How will being a recluse and staying at home affect my depression?

We are continuing with our weekly segment answering your questions about depression, anxiety, phobia and general life-problem. For this edition, we are responding to questions about loneliness from the website Quora and Youtube. In the future, we hope to answer your questions, so please contact us via email ( or any of our social media accounts. All questions will be answered without using your name for reasons of anonymity.

How can I deal with depression and overthinking, I’m so tired of work and school, I have no family and I’m sick of life, sometimes I wan to go to the mountains, build a house and live there far from humans?

Please see the video below for a more thorough explanation to your problem. Personally I do not think that becoming a reclusive will solve your problems. It may have a benefit in the short term because you are currently suffering from low-energy levels due to your depression but a prolonged period of solitude will actually cause you to think even more and therefore be detrimental to your health. By all means take a break from life for a week or two but I would not recommend more than that. You also have to keep in mind how socialising can have a positive affect on your mood. Right now I think you are dealing with the fact that you have low energy levels due to your depression combined with the fact that activities such as socialising and going to work costs more energy than they used to. Please read this article about energy economy.

I hope this helped.

Whenever I come back to school, I feel depressed and sad. What should I do?

First I’d like to say that feeling depressed before the start of a school term is quite common. Actually, the opposite is a rarity. This is due to one, you having a new routine forced upon you and two, you reflecting on what has not been achieved during the summer holiday. After a few weeks have passed you will be used to the new routine of going to school and enjoy seeing old friends again and before you know it you will be heading towards the next holiday and then the process will start over again. Understanding this process will help you to cope with it. Also, for those of you who work, a feeling of extreme depression during Sundays is a strong indication of you not enjoying the work you are doing. For more information please see the video below.

I’m 54 year old woman. My daughter is married and my son is living far away because of his university. My husband works almost every day. I stay at home don’t want to go anywhere. I just prefer stay at home. Even when family or my daughter and my son in law invite us to going somewhere to have fun or to their home I’m not interest to go. I don’t call to my friends like before. My question is do you think I have depression?

I would say that you are definitely exhibiting a symptom associated with depression and that is withdrawal. For a full list of symptoms please see our newly publish Depression Guide. If you exhibit 5 symptoms for a period of more than 2 weeks you are within the realm of a diagnosis. In you case, you declining social activities is a control mechanism you put in place in order to save yourself from feeling bad but it actually works against you because it makes you feel bad in the long run. What you have to do in this case is to go against your intuition and expose yourself to more social activities. The reason why you do this can also be explained by using the economy of energy. Please see the video below for a more thorough explanation.

Philip Andersson

Life Coach

Cross Culture Therapy


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Philip Andersson – Counsellor

Philip Andersson is a life-coach who is currently studying to become a psychotherapist. He treats people suffering from depression, phobias and anxiety. Having been raised in Hong Kong and having lived in England and Japan as an adult, Philip also treats people who are overcome with feelings of displacement and rudderlessness associated with a global-nomad lifestyle such as Third Culture Kids, Cross Culture Kids, Migrants and Asylum Seekers.

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