Death is final.
A lot of us have been at the point where we no longer feel like life is worth living. Some of us have even gone as far as to think of the best way of ending it. But to be at the point where you have a gun pressed against your head, a knife aimed at your stomach or a train steaming towards you at a hundred miles per hour, means that the negative aspects of your life have aligned so perfectly that you are no longer able to see the good in your life.
There is no returning from death. There is no changing your mind halfway through. When you are in the midst of ending your own life, there is no going back. So to all of you who are planning for the end, I beg of you to ask yourself this…
Do I hate life or do I hate my life?
This is a question that has helped a lot of people, not only to choose whether or not life is worth living, but to reclaim a sense of perspective. When we are in a suicidal state of mind, our perspective is extremely focused on the ego. We see everything that is wrong and how it relates to us and dismiss everything else.
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Cross Culture Therapy offers 1-on-1 online therapy sessions to people suffering from depression, phobia, anxiety as well as to people who suffer from displacement issues associated with a globally nomadic lifestyle (i.e.Third Culture Kids – people who have grown up in a culture different to their parent’s passport culture – and Cross Culture Kids) Our sessions are conducted via Skype for a duration of 50-minutes and can be purchased in packs of 1-session, 3-sessions or 5-sessions. If you are interested in purchasing a session, click on the Book A Session tab on our menu or click here.
Most of those who I ask this question to answer – I hate my life. I see this as a positive answer. If the person had answered – I hate life – it would have meant that he or she hated everything in the world. It would have meant that he or she hated the sight of a dog playing with its owner, the thought of parents and children laughing with one another, the thought of eating good food and much much more. Life is hard to hate, whereas the self is quite easy to hate. To those people who answered – I hate my life – I tell them that the positive aspect of hating your life is knowing what is wrong with it. You may hate life because you think that you are unlovable. You may hate life because your career has not panned out the way that you expected it to. The beauty with this is that you can do something about it. If you had hated life in general then it would’ve been a lot harder to do something about it. By hating your life and knowing the reason why you do so, you can build a life plan that will enable you to love your life again.
So when you feel down because you think you’re unlovable, ask yourself – do I hate love in general? When you feel like all is lost because you have lost your job, ask yourself – are there people who enjoy their jobs and how do I feel about that? Or even, in your deepest, darkest moment, take the time to go outside and listen to the birds sing and ask yourself – how can I not appreciate this?
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Philip Andersson is a life-coach who is currently studying to become a psychotherapist. He treats people suffering from depression, phobias and anxiety. Having been raised in Hong Kong and having lived in England and Japan as an adult, Philip also treats people who are overcome with feelings of displacement and rudderlessness associated with a global-nomad lifestyle such as Third Culture Kids, Cross Culture Kids, Migrants and Asylum Seekers.